I thought it would go by the birth plan
To write a plan or not to write a plan? That is the question.
In my last advice I suggested that a Birth Plan should be thrown out the window. First time moms beware. If you set too high expectations of yourself and your birth experience you are in for a shock. Murphy's Law will prove that things never go according to plan. But after having a baby under traumatic circumstances you are in no state to realize this and will be left an emotional wreck, believing you have failed yourself. Don't misunderstand me, but I didn't plan the 'perfect birth'. I read about absolutely everything about labor and understood every kind of complication which could occur. My philosophy was that "I should expect anything but hope for the best". Unfortunately, I didn't count on having EVERYTHING go totally wrong and I developed every complication possible.
I wrote birth plans that went something like this:
Dear doctors and nurses,Thank you for looking after me so well during my pregnancy. I look forward to having an active birth at < xxxxx> hospital. I understand that Placenta Praevia may be a problem but would like to have a natural birth if possible.
1. Support People: I would like my partner and his mother to support me through the labor. 2. Pain Relief: I would like to have an active birth. I might use the gas but would prefer not to have an epidural. I would like the midwives to assist me with breathing techniques to help with pain. 3. Intervention: I expect that doctors will intervene only if necessary for the safety of the baby and myself. 4. Episiotomy: I would like to use the birthing strategies which avoid the necessity for an episiotomy.
These aren't necessarily unrealistic expectations. I went to childbirth classes and learned further about what to expect from the labor and birth (on top of extensive reading). I knew when to go to the hospital and when to hold off and wait. I thought I had it all planned. WRONG!!!!
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